A life lesson for me:
It is Not Always Black or White.
In recent years I’ve been told by more than one consultant that to grow as a human and to prosper in my business I need to stop being so humble. Yes, those are the words they used, so humble. And my immediate reaction has been, Yikes, won’t I become arrogant? Turns out, there is a lot of space between humble and arrogant. And keeping that in mind has altered the way I view myself and my business. What I’ve learned so far is:
Being excessively compliant has been a tactic to keep me ‘under the radar’ (safe).
It goes deep, both in my experience and that of my ancestors.
It no longer serves me to be overly obliging.
Now, to make some changes. How do I claim my talents (and grow my business) without sounding conceited? Is there a way to recognize my valuable contributions without appearing stuck-up? What will happen if I step into the light of brilliance (and outshine Tiffany & Co.)? But perhaps the most perplexing question is: Why do I have this talent (designing singular jewelry and taking some pretty nice photographs), these contributions (using jewelry to encourage and empower) and this light (not so much in the winter) if I don’t utilize them/it?
I have come to the conclusion that looking at this in extremes (black or white) might not be the wisest way to view this issue (or any other). Perhaps by some simple adjustments (awareness) I have a good chance of championing my life and the work I do, instead of diminishing it. It is worth a shot, and while I am at it, I would encourage you to ask yourself, are you making the most of your amazing talents, contributions and light? One way to explore this is to think about the folks you travel with. Are they supportive of your dreams or triggering doubt? Then make a choice, make adjustments and create some boundaries, with awareness, and you may see, there is infinite space between black and white.
Happiness Loves Company,
Amy